How to Drink and Dine Out Responsibly During a Federal Occupation

It was the sound of a whistle in our favorite bar that made me realize nothing felt normal anymore. Going out to eat and drink during unprecedented times is simultaneously important and stressful, but maybe what we’ve learned here in Minnesota can help you should your community face a similar crisis.

On January 24th, 2026, my husband and I went to a Minneapolis bar a few hours after the murder of Alex Pretti by a Customs and Border Protection officer. We wanted to be with our community as everyone moved about the city in a state of shock that this kind of violence could happen, again, and just hours after the massive peaceful march and general strike the day before. I knew that whoever was working would be hanging on by an emotional thread and we wanted to be peaceful, friendly faces on a hard day.

A little while into our drinks, someone from a group seated at the tables behind us got up, looked over the bar’s stash of resistance supplies—cards outlining immigrant rights, lists of rapid response phone lines, pins, etc. He grabbed a couple of the 3D printed whistles and gave them to others at his table. One woman blew the whistle a couple of times, causing several people in the bar to immediately tense up and frantically look around.

When a manager politely explained that this was inappropriate to do inside the bar, the woman and her group got defensive. 

“I didn’t know.” 
“I’m from the suburbs.” 
“She didn’t believe a 3D printed whistle could actually work and was just testing it.”
“We’re on your side, I swear. It’s not a big deal.”

But here’s the thing: When your city is making national and international news, “I’m from the suburbs” is not a good excuse. It might have been an honest mistake, but it was an avoidable one.  

3D printed whistles such as these have become a common sight at bars, restaurants, and shops.

When asked, hospitality professionals offered the following suggestions of how to make going out a good experience for everyone. This is far from a comprehensive list of suggestions, but hopefully something here makes these strange situations easier for everyone. If you’re a bar or restaurant patron like me, I hope this encourages you to get out and support your local community. If you’re a hospitality worker, I hope this helps you have an easier time as you navigate your job.

Practical Tips from the Professionals

First and foremost, support your community by being a part of your community.

  • Get out to your favorite spots and try to find new favorites along the way. Dining in is always the best way to show financial and emotional support, but even ordering takeout can help.
  • All locally owned bars and restaurants need support, but those owned by immigrants and people of color are hurting most of all. Workers are staying home out of fear causing a lot of spots to reduce their hours, which means fewer sales, shifts, and tips.
  • If the closure of a bar or restaurant would make you think “I loved that place; I wish I had gone more often,” go there now.

Your community can’t thrive if it can’t afford to survive.

  • Go to those fundraising pop-ups and spend money, but be sure to order from a venue’s normal menu as well. The amount of mutual aid fundraising that is happening is amazing, but if the proceeds from a special drink, dish, or menu are going to fundraising, that means they aren’t going to the venue. By ordering off the standard menu as well, you help support the space and the people hosting the fundraiser. And it should go without saying: tip generously! 
  • Here’s one I wouldn’t have thought of: Be thoughtful about how you’re paying. When bars and restaurants are struggling, every penny counts. If you close out and have your card run for every order, that costs the venue more credit card processing fees than having a tab open. If you’re out with friends and want to split who pays for each round, consider one tab and then splitting costs on Venmo or PayPal.

Daiquiris as a fundraising tool for Minneapolis mutual aid organizations

Treat everyone with grace.

  • Bars and restaurants that are actively speaking out and working against Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) are being targeted by smear campaigns, harassing phone calls, and sometimes even violence. Even if a venue is vocal on social media, they may be hesitant to have in-person conversations about their thoughts on the situation, especially if you aren’t a known regular.
  • Support bars and restaurants that share your values. No one has the energy to argue with you, and staff members aren’t there to engage in a political debate with you. Either stick to places that agree with you or keep it to yourself.
  • It’s okay to acknowledge the strange circumstances, but remember that hospitality workers are having this conversation with dozens of people a day. One bartender I talked to suggested avoiding the basic “How are you?” greeting, because there’s no good answer. Some good alternatives might be “Good to see you,” “Happy [insert day of the week],” or simply “Glad to be here.”
  • Emotions are running high and most people are functioning in an extended state of fear. Remember that you’re there for an hour or two but the people working have to be worried for the entirety of their shift, and are probably worried about their colleagues even when not working. Imagine having to do your normal every day job while also being on high alert every second for people coming to detain your friends, your neighbors, your colleagues, and possibly even your customers.
  • It’s not appropriate to ask probing questions, such as if anyone from the restaurant has been detained or if they have a lot of immigrant workers. This isn’t safe or appropriate information to share with customers and may make staff suspicious of your intentions. (ICE agents have been known to dine at a restaurant and then come back later to make “arrests.”)

Some of you may not be at personal risk of being detained, but you may be worried about the risk of a disruption to your experience. Disruption might look like your reservation getting cancelled because the restaurant is understaffed and shortening their hours, ICE showing up to detain the people who are plating your appetizer, or a protest passing by as you’re having dessert and causing you to wonder if you’ll get stuck in traffic as you leave. 

This sign is available as a PDF on the Monarca website.

Some Dos and Don’ts if ICE shows up while you’re at a bar or restaurant

  • Do follow the staff’s lead if there’s an incident. Most bars and restaurants have a plan.
  • Do not independently interact with ICE agents. The venue should have someone trained to ask the right questions and assert the business’s rights.
  • Do take video of the situation. Photos of agents, vehicles, badges, etc., are valuable but only if you can do so safely.
  • Do NOT post the video without the restaurant’s permission. Video of an incident should be carefully reviewed before posting so that agents can’t use it to find justification for their actions.
  • If you’re comfortable, and the situation calls for it (take the staff’s lead), you may help form a barrier between agents and private spaces.
  • Do not get aggressive with ICE agents. It is likely to escalate the situation, putting yourself and others in danger. 
  • If you’re uncomfortable, at risk, or simply unsure what to do, do nothing. It’s better to be a passive observer than to risk making the situation worse.

At the end of the day, the key message is that if it’s safe for you to be out and about (and as long as you’re not one of the minority groups being targeted, you’re probably safe), your community needs you. Your favorite restaurant needs you. Your favorite bar needs you. But they also need you to be kind, patient, and understanding. The only way we all get through this is together.

Going out to eat and drink can feel strange when your city is experiencing ongoing violence and trauma.  Humans are complicated creatures and it is possible—perhaps even necessary—to seek normalcy, joy, and connection even while your heart rages. Here in Minnesota, we remain angry at the deaths, angry at the lies, and angry for all of the families being torn apart by the violent actions of ICE, but we resist and we persist. 

To resist we must refuel, and for many people, going out to eat and drink refuels the spirit as much as it does the body. This is the power, and necessity, of hospitality.

This whole article, summed up by a sign at Pony Up in Denver, CO.

Ways to Help

Being “too cool to care” just isn’t cool anymore

Several years ago, when I first started my spreadsheet to track The World’s 50 Best Bars, I was excitedly telling a friend about it and he said

You know, nobody cares about this stuff as much as you do.

His tone made it clear that this wasn’t meant as a compliment and for a long time, that reaction made me embarrassed to tell people about my work. 

If I visited a bar because it was on a list, I was hesitant to admit as much for fear of seeming….what? Pedestrian? Hung up on awards? An outsider? It’s taken several years of travel, many excited responses about what I’m doing, having my data used in a seminar at Tales of the Cocktail, and a good therapist to get me to the point where I will proudly talk about my comprehensive database of bar awards. 

At some point there was a generational shift away from caring, or at least admitting to care, and I think we need to swing the pendulum back in the other direction. There’s enough apathy and the negativity in the world already, joy is revolutionary. Yes, admitting you care about being recognized or awarded for your work means openly admitting that you’ll be sad and disappointed if you don’t win or get ranked – but that’s not a weakness –  it’s a sign that you want to do your best.

At some point there was a generational shift away from caring, or at least admitting to care, and I think we need to swing the pendulum back in the other direction. There’s enough apathy and the negativity in the world already, joy is revolutionary. Yes, admitting you care about being recognized or awarded for your work means openly admitting that you’ll be sad and disappointed if you don’t win or get ranked – but that’s not a weakness –  it’s a sign that you want to do your best.

Looking back on the statement “No one cares about this as much as you do,” I see it very differently today. So many amazing things in the world only exist because someone cared more than anyone else. (See: John Fulton’s Orrery)

(Photo courtesy Kelvingrove Instagram)

As I’ve spent more time digging into awards, I’ve seen this attitude of “too cool to care” surface over and over. No one cares about awards (until they win one) and few people will admit that they want to win. I’ve watched bartenders travel the world, spending more days away than at home, building hype for their bar and then going on a podcast to say they don’t care about winning awards. I’ve heard stories about the steps a bar took to get a global audience and then watched their head bartender sit on a panel and say none of it is for the awards.

Now don’t get me wrong – winning awards should not be the primary focus of a bar. We don’t want bars that only care whether or not the next person through the door is a voter, but neither are we served well by people refusing to admit they care about something.  I recently had a lovely chat with a bar owner about how soulless some top bars can feel when they become the sort of place you go once, but they don’t have the space or ability to create a culture of regulars. As a random middle aged white woman from the Midwest, I’ve experienced what it feels like to walk into a bar and be sized up as a nobody. Sometimes that tune changes when a bartender realizes I know a thing or two about bars, cocktails, and hospitality – but sometimes it doesn’t.

Banana Daiquiri made with local bananas at The Hitching Post in Rio Grande, Puerto Rico – a hidden gem of a bar/restaurant.

External validation shouldn’t be *the* driving force behind a bar program, but it’s okay for it to be *a* driving force. Deep down, I believe it’s human nature to care about recognition. There’s nothing wrong with just keeping your head down and getting on with it but there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to hear your community say “hey, great work.” And if, at the end of the day, you really don’t give a shit? That’s fine – but maybe try to find a talking point that doesn’t make someone else feel embarrassed when they do care.

Cool shit happens because someone cares enough to make it happen. So be cool, care deeply, and make shit happen.

MSP to SIN, via Tales of the Cocktail

Singapore Recap – Jan/Feb 2024

It was -5F/-20C in Minnesota when my husband and I departed for the airport in January. Our first challenge of the upcoming trip was how to dress so as to not freeze on the way to the airport but not melt upon landing in Sydney some 21 hours later. It was, of course, peak Summer down under. The answer was layers, because the answer to weather related clothing questions is always to dress in layers.

(Photo: Flowers in the Flower Dome at Marina by the Bay. With home in the dead of winter, I gravitated towards as much color as I could find.)

Our final destination was Singapore. I’m not one for “signs from the universe” but it was clear, for a variety of reasons, that we needed to visit Singapore. In July of 2023, the Singapore Tourism Board sponsored a Singapore Residency at Tales of the Cocktail, which we were able to attend a couple of times during our week at Tales. The drinks we tried were unique, beautiful, and featured flavors that are unique to Southeast Asia. While Singapore was already on our radar – the Tourism Board should be pleased because the taste of Singapore cocktails left us wanting more.

“In 2023, TOTCF and STB highlighted the extensive drinks industry talent of Singapore with features on the TOTCF website and social media platforms; a variety of events celebrating the 2023 Spirited Awards Singaporean nominees; and a Singapore Residency at TOTC2023.”  https://talesofthecocktail.org/get-involved/singapore-x-tales/

The next nudge towards a trip to Singapore came when I was continuing work on my spreadsheet of The World’s 50 Best Bars and ran some new statistics to see which cities were most represented. It turned out that (at the time) just eight cities represent over half the all time rankings on the list. (As of the October 2023 list, it’s now nine.) Of those eight, the most represented that we hadn’t visited yet was, you guessed it, Singapore. 

And finally, the airfare gods shone upon us with a screaming hot Delta SkyMiles deal to Sydney (thanks Thrifty Traveler! (<–Referral link, but check them out either way.)) that was still quite reasonable if we adjusted it to fly into Sydney and out of Singapore. The only catch was “having” to go to Australia, again. It was a sacrifice we were willing to make, and extended our “layover” to include a few days in both Sydney and Melbourne, both cities we fell in love with on our trip in 2022. (And also both cities in the aforementioned top nine of 50 Best represented cities.)

Singapore won me over in ways I didn’t expect. Leading up to the trip, I had expectations of fairly formal service styles being the norm, probably because of the photos of stunning spots like Atlas and Manhattan. With many hotel bars on the list, a lot of the photos we saw were of bartenders in the classic coat and tie uniform behind the bar. While that style of service exists, the majority of spots we went to had a casual style of hospitality and genuine friendliness. 

(Photo: The stunning and world famous Gin Tower at Atlas.)

As for the drinks, they lived up to the tastes we got at Tales. I had a cocktail that tasted like my favorite peanut dipping sauce for spring rolls – but somehow turned into a bright and balanced drink. We had drinks using fresh pandan, which is revelatory after only having dried. There was a highball with goat milk and custard cream, drinks made with the same Kaya jam we enjoyed for breakfast most mornings, and a Bamboo made with aged sake as well as brown rice sake. We had exotic de-constructed percolated cocktails and a familiar gin and tonic made with gin from Northern Minnesota.

Singapore blew us away with its food, drink, and friendliness. I never got used to the Singapore heat, but I fell in love with the warmth of the hospitality. The only problem is our growing list of places where we want to be regulars – science really needs to work on the ability to beam yourself anywhere in the world. Thankfully, several of the friends we made on the other side of the world will be at Tales of the Cocktail this summer and we look forward to seeing them again. (But maybe they can come to Minnesota in January some day? Just to even things out.)

(Photo: On the left, the aforementioned “peanut sauce” cocktail.)

Anyway, here’s the full rundown of bars from the whole trip.

  • 14 days on the ground
  • 2 nights, 11 different bars  in Sydney
  • 3 nights, 9 different bars in Melbourne
  • 9 nights, 28 different bars in Singapore

January 22, 2024

  1. Hart’s Pub (pints and lunch while waiting for hotel room)
  2. Cantina OK! (Fruit)
  3. Bar Planet (Popcorn)
  4. The Caterpillar Club (Food)
  5. Lobo

January 23, 2024

  1. Re- (Lunch & Drinks)
  2. Shady Pines Saloon (Peanuts)
  3. El Primo Sanchez (Dinner)
  4. Maybe Sammy
  5. Double Deuce Lounge
  6. Cantina OK! (Fruit)
  7. Old Love’s

January 24, 2024

  1. Caretaker’s Cottage
  2. One or Two
  3. Above Board

January 25, 2024

  1. Byrdi
  2. Black Pearl
  3. Bar Bellamy (Dinner)

January 26, 2024

  1. Gimlet at Cavendish House (Lunch)
  2. Apollo Inn
  3. Heartbreaker

January 27, 2024

  1. Travel Day

January 28, 2024

  1. Cat Bite Club
  2. Sago House
  3. Gibson

January 29, 2024

  1. The Long Bar (Peanuts)
  2. Jigger & Pony
  3. Republic Bar
  4. Nutmeg & Clove

January 30, 2024

  1. Draftland
  2. Last Word

January 31, 2024

  1. Atlas
  2. Manhattan
  3. Origin Grill & Bar
  4. The Backdrop
  5. Analogue Initiative

February 1, 2024

  1. Fura
  2. Stay Gold Flamingo
  3. Native
  4. Puffy Bois

February 2, 2024

  1. No Sleep Club
  2. The Elephant Room
  3. Tippling Club
  4. Night Hawk
  5. Sago House
  6. Cat Bite Club
  7. Oriental Elixir

February 3, 2024

  1. 28 HongKong St
  2. Sugarhall
  3. Barbary Coast
  4. Raffles Writers Bar

February 4, 2024

  1. Compendium Spirits
  2. Cat Bite Club